Has it gotten to that point???

DATING....duhn duhn duhn!!! I decided I am emotionally ready to get back out there. I recently moved to a new city that I was expecting to have a lot more to offer, when it came to men, than I have seen. This city of mine, has a lack of black people...more specifically black men. Then again, maybe my expectations were to high. But anyways, the black men that I do see, guess who is right by their side...their white girlfriend. Don't get me wrong, I don't have any problem with interracial dating! You fall in love with who you fall in love with. What I do have a problem with is black men writing off black women altogether for one reason or another. Now I see why so many of the black women I have seen are usually matched up with a male of a different race. OK so maybe that means that I need to broaden my horizons a little bit. I would be open to dating other races, nervous, but open. Still I have a few dilemmas.

• I am a shy lady when it comes to men. I don't think I have ever approached a man, in the romantic sense, ever in my life! I am a grown woman now though. I need to take action into my own hands, right? OK really, I know myself. That is not going to happen. If I approach a man he will immediately be placed in the friend zone. 

• Getting back out there...where is that exactly? I am in my mid 20's but I am a single working mother who doesn't frequent nightclubs and all that jazz. When I was in college it was easy to date. You met people everywhere. Now, I work full time, in a profession full of other women, then go home to my baby. I guess I need to expand my life. Church is an option...and then there is...

• Online Dating! I NEVER thought I would ever consider, need to consider, or be in the position to consider online dating. I used to think it was for desperate, unsocial outcasts. Hmmm... look at me now! Ha! I know I am none of those things but the way my life has played out, online dating seems to be a pretty good option for me. I will HOPEFULLY be introduced to be people who are in the same place as I am and skip all the B.S. of traditional dating. You know that B.S. that usually isn't a true reflection of the person, but you don't find that out out until you are already in too deep??!! Well I guess I have to change my view and say online daters are really just being smart about their time. I think I will still take some time to think about it. Plus I have to decide which site I would like to dive into first!